Sometimes there is such a thing as too much information.
This week I received some news regarding my medical status and of course it's never a matter of "it's this problem and this is how to fix it." It was "I want you to get more tests done and I really would like them done by the end of the week."
So after getting the tests done, I go home and do one of the worst thing you can do when you are already wound up tighter than a spinning top.
I hop on Google and started researching. Last time I did this had me in tears within minutes. This time I at least had a definite diagnosis and luckily there was a lot of "it's a pain and limiting, but it's not dangerous." The sweet feeling of relief....which was later confirmed by the doctor.
Now, the internet can be a wonderful tool to find information but it can also be very overwhelming. I often see advice on spanking forums and blogs of getting your partner on the internet and researching if they are not familiar with the community. I'm sure for some this is a great idea, especially if they are in to a wide variety of fetishes/practices.
I am not one of those people. In fact I am almost vanilla when I compare my tastes to most it seems. It's often made me question if I truly am "kinky." I remember years ago feeling completely overwhelmed and doubting whether I belonged to the community because so many of the pictures, videos and stories didn't interest me at all, with some almost scaring me me away. They no longer do in the same sense because of the stress on consent in most places, but when it's something completely foreign to you and you are already trying so hard to figure out if you are weird or not, it can be a complete turn off.
I've often debated sharing blogs and websites with my partner. There are lots of tame, informational places on the net but I always seem to have a reason not to. The ads might give him the wrong impression, the information is not quite what I'm looking for, or (and this one is probably the most accurate) I just can't bring myself to do it because I imagine the worse reactions that he wouldn't actually have. We are often our own worse enemies in that way.
So what are your thoughts? Should you try and limit what your partners sees initially or let them dive head first into such a diverse world with no guidance? Should it be somewhere in the middle? Is it too much of a specific situation to answer broadly?
Take care and stay safe,